THE FAMILY - Bible Study Lesson Outline

Posted in Teachings on March 28, 2016
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NUCLEAR FAMILY – nothing to do with nuclear power. Means the basic traditional family unit of husband, wife, and children. “Nuclear is used in its general meaning referring to a central entity or "nucleus" around which others collect.”

'from Latin familia "family servants, domestics collectively, the servants in a household," thus also "members of a household, the estate, property; the household, including relatives and servants,"

In English, sense of "collective body of persons who form one household under one head and one domestic government, including parents, children, and servants, and as sometimes used even lodgers or boarders" [Century Dictionary] is from 1540s.
- (Online Etymology Dictionary)
Why talk about the “family”?
- A lot to learn about the family! More than you might realize. When you’re done with this lesson you’ll know a whole lot more than most people. ☺
- We are all members of a family, and one day most (or all) of us will have our own family.
- A family is a small version of a society. If you can UNDERSTAND the “family” you can understand the bigger picture of a city, state, or country.
- A family is something invented and promoted by God Himself. So that makes it important!
- The “family” is opposed in many ways by those who reject God. The “NWO” in general, but Communism, especially. (This shows us that we should pay special attention to preserving families.)
o Russian Communist revolutionary Alexandra Kollontai. Believed that the family unit would wither away once Communism took over. Viewed marriage and traditional families as oppressive. Both men and women should work for, and be supported by, society, not their families. Children should be wards of and reared by society. (Tried it, didn’t work.)
o Revolutionary Communist Party, USA ( believes this still, today.
o Feminists (SEE QUOTES)

What this lesson is meant for: to teach you what God says. To give you good information that will help you think correctly about the family. To help you one day have a strong family, be a good family leader, a good husband or wife, and a good parent. To be happiest and do your best.

You’ll see that many modern families might not match up 100%. Please don’t take this lesson as criticism if that is the case with your family! Most of us have less-than-perfect families…because we are all imperfect.

What this lesson is NOT meant to do:
Discourage, condemn, or criticize you, your family, or families you know. I will talk about what a family is SUPPOSED to be, and show you God’s design for a family from the Bible. But I realize that few people are part of families that meet that standard! (Fewer nuclear families today than ever. More single-parent, unmarried, and “other” combined.)

Related words
kin / kindred ("family", like Ger. kind or "child")
tribe - 'Greek phyle "race or tribe of men, body of men united by ties of blood and descent, a clan"'
clan - a group of people united by kinship and descent. Even if lineage details are unknown, members may be organized around a founding member or ancestor.
husband - from Old Norse husbondi "master of the house,". "Householder". replaced Old English wer as "married man," companion of wif.
child – from Old English “cild”. (The Old English word for womb, cildhama, means “child home”.)
people – the people in a nation. “people of the land” Gen 11:6-9; Gen 17:16; Matt. 2:6; Acts 13:17

** Not “races” **
Acts 17:26 And hath made of one blood all nations of men for to dwell on all the face of the earth, and hath determined the times before appointed, and the bounds of their habitation;

A family is part (or, a subset) of a "tribe". Judges 18:19, 21:24. 1 Sam. 9:21
- Deut 29:18 man/woman, family, tribe - shows ascending order
- Rev 5:9: kindred, tongue, people, nation (shows some divisions of people)

A family originates with and comes from a man. Ruth 2:1, Lev 20:5, Lev 25:41; Judges 6:15; Judges 9:1
- This means that a father is the leader of - the head of - a family.
- God is a father and is head of a family. Ephesians 3:14-15
- A woman can be the leader of a house (1 Cor 1:11)

A family is called a "house". Micah 7:6

A family/house starts with a husband and wife. (Gen. 34:8, 1 Sam. 18:27)
- Hamor said his son longed for Jacob's daughter.
- Saul gave Michal, his daughter, to David.

A family is strengthened when children are brought into it.
Psalms 127:3-5 - Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. 4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. 5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

- Every person in a family has some main roles.

love the wife (Eph. 5:28, Eph 5:33)
be the head of the wife (Eph. 5:23)
stay married (Luke 16:18; 1 Cor 7:27)
honor wife (1 Pet 3:7)

reverence her husband (Eph 5:33)
stay married (1 Cor 7:10)??
love her husband Titus 2:4
cause her husband to trust in her - be trustworthy (Prov 31:11)
do him good and not evil (Prov 31:11)

don't provoke children to wrath/anger (Eph 6:4; Col. 3:21)
bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Eph 6:4)
Rule house (i.e. family) 1 Tim 3:4
Have children in subjection with all gravity (1 Tim 3:4)
PROVIDER - provide for his own 1 Tim 5:8
Exhort (to give urgent advice, recommendations, or warnings) 1 Thess 2:11
Comfort 1 Thess 2:11
Charge (give responsibilities to) 1 Thess 2:11
Pity (have compassion on) children – Psalm 103:13
Show kindness, and give what is good. Luke 11:11

love children (Titus 2:4)
guide family (1 Tim. 5:14)
Comfort children (Is 66:13)

Training of child (Prov 22:6)
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Teacher – Deut 4:10; Deut 6:7
MODEL (Example) – 2 Tim 1:5
Correction of child. Proverbs 29:17 - Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Discipline, reproof, giving of wisdom to children
Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
PROVIDE INHERITANCE 2 Cor 12:14 (it is assumed that children are heirs of their parents, Rom 8:17)

The Lord intended parents to treat their children, His children, with patience, compassion, and love, and to behave in ways that are in the child’s best interests (discipline, teaching, providing for, etc.)

Subject themselves to parents. Luke 2:51
Obey parents in the Lord (Eph 6:1)
Honor their parents (Eph 6:2)
Obey parents in all things (Col. 3:20)
Requite (give back in return especially love) their parents (1 Tim 5:4)
Show piety - fidelity to natural obligations (as to parents)
Take care of them in their old age. Proverbs 23:22 - Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old.

PROPER ORDER - 1 Tim. 5:14
1. Marry
2. Have children
3. Guide their family

"I don't want to have kids/a family."
- You make your own choices, but you should reconsider making a decision about your future until you've made sure you know what God wants for you.

“I won’t be a good parent.”
No one is an expert at being a parent. Don’t be hard on your parents – they don’t always know what to do, how to act, what to say! Many times children blame or criticize their mom or dad even though that mom or dad is really trying their best. You won’t be any different, either – we are all imperfect.

“It’s too hard to be a parent.”
Most things that are worthwhile have some difficulties and challenges. Sure it might be hard. But does that mean you shouldn’t meet the challenge?

“These are rough times. I don’t want to raise a child in this world.”
It’s been better, and it’s been worse. Not actually a valid excuse. Would ancient Rome have been better? The Dark Ages? The Civil War? WWII Germany? We have it pretty good comparatively.


The nuclear family must be destroyed , and people must find better ways of living together. ... Whatever it’s ultimate meaning, the break-up of families now is an objectively revolutionary process. ... "Families have supported oppression by separating people into small, isolated units, unable to join together to fight for common interests. ... — Functions of the Family, Linda Gordon, WOMEN: A Journal of Liberation, Fall, 1969.

"By the year 2000 we will, I hope, raise our children to believe in human potential, not God" — Gloria Steinem, editor of 'MS' magazine.

“The most merciful thing a large family can do to one of its infant members is to kill it" — Margaret Sanger, founder of Planned Parenthood

"Only when manhood is dead - and it will perish when ravaged femininity no longer sustains it - only then will we know what it is to be free." -- [Andrea Dworkin. "The Root Cause," speech, 26 Sept. 1975, at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, Cambridge (published in Our Blood, ch. 9, 1976).]

[I]t is important for us to encourage women to leave their husbands and not to live individually with men... All of history must be re-written in terms of oppression of women. We must go back to ancient female religions like witchcraft" — The Declaration of Feminism , November 1971.

"I feel that 'man-hating' is an honorable and viable political act, that the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against the class that is oppressing them." — Robin Morgan, (editor of MS magazine)

"How will the family unit be destroyed? ... the demand alone will throw the whole ideology of the family into question, so that women can begin establishing a community of work with each other and we can fight collectively. Women will feel freer to leave their husbands and become economically independent, either through a job or welfare."— Female Liberation , by Roxanne Dunbar.

"In order to raise children with equality, we must take them away from families and communally raise them." -- Dr. Mary Jo Bane, feminist and assistant professor of education at Wellesley College and associate director of the school's Center for Research on Woman

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